Many people are
suffering from character flaws that have
undoubtedly held them back in work,
relationships, and life, says prominent
psychiatrist Dr. Louis A Tartaglia, aka.
"Dr. T." The good news, says Dr.. T.,
is that you can turn your character flaws into
CHARACTER ASSETS and become.....FLAWLESS!
In his new book, 'FLAWLESS.' (Morrow: January
1999), Dr. T. identifies the TOP TEN CHARACTER
FLAWS that undermine our chances to succeed in
life, including time-tested ways to overcome
YOU TELL IF YOU ARE POSSESSED BY A FLAW?
this is worse than just having the flaw. Here
the flaw has you! Anyone of the following may be
1. Do you find yourself "upset" when
you need to be calm?
2. Do you lie when it would be better to tell the
3. Would you rather be right even if it wrecks a
4. Do you hate accepting responsibility and blame
even when you know you are wrong?
5. Does resentment feel like a perfectly normal
6. Do you worry about things you can't control?
7. Do you fear even when there is nothing to
because it feels normal?
8. Are you intolerant of people who are not like
when you are interested in knowing them?
9. Do you use the excuse that you are a victim
10. Do you try to force others to do things your
because you want them to like you?
11. Do you cop out with inadequacy even before
tried your hardest?
12. Do you love to find fault and share it even
are aware that it will hurt someone else?
13. Did you graduate from law schdol or become a
14. Last but most important, do you find yourself
your most common flaw even when you don't want
If you're like most of us, you are constantly
people who would rather be right than happy. They
great class of unfortunate souls who are
admitting they are wrong. They are convinced that
way of living, their way of doing things, is
characters wish that the rest of the world would
their personal program. Then, according to them,
would be better off.
Or maybe you have a boss or coworker with a
temper who gets enraged over the silliest things.
you might have a spouse or partner who blames you
or her problems. Do you know anyone who prefers
over solutions, or who relishes nurturing
These people have character flaws.
The truth is that everybody has them. Some of us
than others. You may notice you have them too. I
have my share. Don't worry if you happen to see
surfacing as I describe them. That is a sign of
open-mindedness and willingness to get a handle
We are a society that is enamored with defective
character. We watch thousands of hours of TV and
where the leading role is portrayed by an
character. We watch celebrities, politicians, and
and off the screen with an almost morbid
their defects: J. R. on Dallas, Jeffrey Geiger on
Hope, Diane on Cheers, or Abby on Knots Landing
most flawed people seem to be among the most
Perhaps in their struggles we see ourselves.
Great individuals with high character also have
faults. It is precisely because they have such
character that their flaws stand out. The common
perception that good people have fewer flaws is
is not a matter of more or fewer flaws. It is the
willingness to change them that counts. If you
lives of saints and sages you will find that they
to discipline themselves to improve their
character. It is
in the process of working on your flaws that you
great strength of character. Strength of
character is what
this book is about.
Some people, you may have noticed, deliberately
their defects of character. In fact there are
hone their flaws in order to be in control or
over others. As much as some hate to admit it,
evil people in this world who use character flaws
ahead and dominate others. These individuals have
been with us. Our modern, allegedly enlightened
seeks to reform them, even when it is obvious
is no willingness on their part to change. As a
have become fascinated with the dark side, like
who bask in the shadows.
Copyright © 1998 by Louis A. Tartaglia
Using case studies from his practice, colorful
anecdotes and prescriptive advice, Dr. T.
demonstrates how we can get unstuck and live a
more peaceful, productive and happy life.
Dr. T is an author, psychiatrist, addiction
medicine specialist, and the director of the
Tartaglia Mind Institute. Dr. T. has a wife and
five sons and lives in Sylvania, Ohio.
"Character is the mosf critical issue facing
our society. Here is a dynamic book that tells us
what we can do to imrove it. Tartaglia will
enlighten you" "
- Jack Canfield, co-author, New York Times
best-selling Chicken Soup for the Soul series
EARLY ENDORSEMENTS FOR
`'If you'd like a
flawless life and character, read, absorb and use
these principles and insights from my friend, Dr.
-- Mark Victor Hansen, Co-author, New York
Times #1 bestseller, Chicken Soup For The Soul
"Character is the most critical issue facing
our society. Here is a dynamic book that tells us
what we can do to improve it. Tartaglia wi11
-- Jack Canfield, Co-author, New York
Times #1 bestseller, Chicken Soup for the Soul
"Simple, easy-to-read -- like looking in the
mirror. You'll get the point, and you'll get it
quickly -- and maybe save a few dollars in
-- Dr. Joyce L. Vedral, Author, Look in,
Look up, Look out!: Be the Person You Were Meant
"Flawless" A priceless jewel that
shows you it is possible by the grace of God to
turn your character flaws into character
-- Robert H. Schuller, Author, Ten Steps
to Financial Freedom and Life's Not Fair, But God
"Flawless is good food for the soul."
-- Father Angelo Scolozzi, Missionaries of
Charity 3rd Order
"If you don't have any flaws you're not
human. Making your life work involves admitting
your flaws and committing to change. Let Flawless
be your life guide. This is a must read for all
-- Ken Blanchard, Co-author, The One
"I cannot tell you how deeply impressed I
was while reviewing Flawless, by Lou Tartaglia.
Not only is it rich in earthy, healthy
psychology, but the style is delightful. It is a
book that not just certain people should read,
but one ~at everyone could benefit from, and
enjoy themselves in the process."
-- Joseph F. Girzone, author of the Joshua
"Dr. Tartaglia jump-starts us toward growth
by understanding that character flaws are
defensive mechanisms. ("flaws don't occur
because people are bad, but because people are
hurting.'' ) He guides us to self-directed change
by distinguishing between feats of iron will and
the more powerful humility of willingness.
Flawless is a powerful, timely guidebook to a
healthier, heartier dance through life."
-- Jim Tunney, Ed.D., Former NFL Referree
''Flawless! Your Ten Most Common Character Flaws
and What to Do About Them is a must-read from a
medical director and an outstanding writer whose
decades of working with patients provides him a
rich background of understanding human
psychology. Dr. Tartaglia is genius at
simplifying complex theory into clear,
understandable, and practical action steps that
will enrich your life and interaction with
-- Paul J. Meyer, Founder of Success
Motivation Institute, Inc. and Leadership
`'Dr. Tartaglia's terrific book Flawless!
reflects a street smart and savvy approach that
has helped thousands of patients. He is the most
knowledgeable psychiatrist I have ever worked
with. Flawless! is a must read for anyone bent on
turning their life around.''
-- David Toma, World renowned lecturer and